When did life get SO DANG BUSY? It’s nutso to me to think of all thing things we get done in a day. And we aren’t even a super crazy multi – sports family. We have riding lessons,church callings and meetings with grocery pick up and chores sprinkled in.
This week has been like many others, running from thing to thing. It’s easy to get caught up in the crazy and to turn around and realize that we haven’t actually spent any quality time together as a couple.
One of my New Years resolutions this year was to have a regular date night. Before this year we RARELY went on a date. Even before we had kids we didn’t do date night very often. After kids? Never. We would go on a trip just the 2 of us once a year and I would spend half the time feeling lost without the kids and wondering what the heck to talk to him about the whole time.
So when this year came around I made it a goal. I’m happy to say that for the most part we have gone on a date night almost every Tuesday this year! It has been great ! Most of the time it’s absolutely lovely to know that at the end of the day, on a crazy Tuesday, that I have a date with my handsome guy. Some Tuesdays we aren’t feeling it but we still go and by the end of the date we are in a better mood.
I’m so glad that we made having a date night a important part of our week. It has been nice to reconnect even in the midst of the craziness, the kids, job stuff, my schedule. One of the hurdles that we had to work on it once we were on a date night, we would only talk business. ALL the things that we try to talk about but get interrupted by the kids. Which needs to happen but not on date night.
On a date night we try to talk about funny things that made us laugh, or things that we can’t believe happened, generally all things light and fluffy. We do talk about the kids of course, but we try to keep it more about how WE as husband and wife are doing.
We have moved Shop Talk, as I call it, to Sunday night. We go over what’s happening during the week and try to divide up responsibilities. It works pretty good and it’s nice for both of us to have a clear idea of what’s coming up.
Most of the time we just do dinner, but sometimes we have time to squeeze in something fun too. We went axe throwing once, had a couples massage and last Tuesday I almost burnt down the trailer cooking our chicken pot pies while we worked together on winterizing stuff. ( not the hottest date night, but it had to get done and it was fun doing it by ourselves)
I have some other fun date night ideas planned and can’t wait to have fun with Greg. This has been one of the best ideas I’ve ever had for a new years resolution. I love looking forward to date night every week and Greg has said that he looks forward to it too.
Spending time working on your relationship is one of the best things you can do. Remembering why you married each other in the first place is ALWAYS a good thing. It’s so easy to get busy and to turn around and realize you haven’t spoken to your other half in WEEKS about anything other than the basics. So if you are a really busy couple , find the time, make yourselves a priority. You’ll be happy you did!
Here’s to many more date night! Love ya, babe
Till next time!
~ Laura
Life, Party of 4 